With love is not rude we had to tell each other three things that irritates or makes us uncomfortable. We each only came up with two and I struggled even naming those at the moment. I know there are things that bug me about Dave but they happen in the moment and I will usually get upset, take a breath and/or pout and get over it because I don't want it to ruin the time we are having together.
On the same topic, I vent to my girlfriends about a lot of things and of course relationship issues come up. However, I read this one piece of advice that said "Never talk bad about your husband to other people. Never." and I thought about this and I thought to myself "duh! Why would people do that?" and then I thought some more about it and I realized that sometimes I need to get my anxiety out and that's what friends are for. I don't speak badly about Dave but I do tell them my concerns and irritations which I feel benefits the relationship because I get to vent. If my friends want to judge me and our relationship then they can judge but Dave and I know how we truly are together. This also helped me to understand not to be quick to judge other people's relationships but to be there for support. Adults can make their own decisions (for the most part) ;)
Moving on...
With love is not irritable which the task was a little more difficult to complete. It asked us to act with love and not irritation with more difficult circumstances in our marriage. We haven't had difficult circumstances yet but will keep this day in mind when those days come...
Todays is day seven and the challenge was to write a positive list and negative list about your spouse and tell which list was easier to write and then to tell the other person ONE positive thing off of their list. From what I said before the negative list was harder to write because once I say what irritates me or I get what's bugging me off my chest I usually let it slip out of my mind. Anyway, the positive things about Dave out weights the negatives ones by so many. Those are the things that I focus on on a daily basis. I could just keep writing on that list and that's what the book told us to focus on throughout the marriage because that negative list is like cancer and can slowly destroy your relationship. Plus, who wants all that negative in their life. I have usually a day per month or everyday irritation that seems to want to make an appearance all on the same day and I get exhausted from being pissed off most of the day. So, my positive thing about Dave was his patients he has and he showed it again when I asked him what positive thing I said about him. Oops... forgetful me. His for me was my easy going nature and that I can go with the flow.
On a side note we went to Sassafras and got milkshakes... Delicious!! Do yourself a favor and make it down there to try one! I had the Fruity Pebbles and next time I'm going to get the Capt Crunch! Yum!
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